There were a few articles on the net floating around some days back. Single girl/guy lamenting about her/his parents' infuriating attempts to marry them off. That is arranged marriage. Why does this term sends shivers down the spine. There were sayings like 'all through my life, my parents ask me not to talk to a stranger but now they are asking me to marry one', 'why should I dress up like a model and pose for another family?' etc..
Well, the way I see it is this. First off all, the people who forwarded these articles/blogs were either single guys and girls or people who have boy friends and girl friends but their parents haven't approved of them or those who have burnt their fingers in bad relationships. Now that all of them are past their mid-twenties, their parents are quite keen to see their children 'settled'. There might be different meanings to this word. I am not going to argue about it. But from the parents point of view, marriage is an important step and has to be done at an appropriate age.
Nowadays, most of the parents aren't that strict about this issue. They are quite okay if you bring home a guy or a girl who is decent enough and has good manners and behavior. But if you show them someone who looks like a Metallica-wannabe, obviously they get scared. And thats when all the drama about arranged marriage starts. Or the case might be that you, in your younger days would have done something which makes your parents not trust you. Is that their fault? Or, the third reason can be that the parents are inherently against love marriages, in which case, nothing can be done. Tough luck.
By telling this, I have nothing against (or for) any type of marriage. Its just that, try to find a way to keep you and everyone around you happy. Its not too difficult.
Well, the way I see it is this. First off all, the people who forwarded these articles/blogs were either single guys and girls or people who have boy friends and girl friends but their parents haven't approved of them or those who have burnt their fingers in bad relationships. Now that all of them are past their mid-twenties, their parents are quite keen to see their children 'settled'. There might be different meanings to this word. I am not going to argue about it. But from the parents point of view, marriage is an important step and has to be done at an appropriate age.
Nowadays, most of the parents aren't that strict about this issue. They are quite okay if you bring home a guy or a girl who is decent enough and has good manners and behavior. But if you show them someone who looks like a Metallica-wannabe, obviously they get scared. And thats when all the drama about arranged marriage starts. Or the case might be that you, in your younger days would have done something which makes your parents not trust you. Is that their fault? Or, the third reason can be that the parents are inherently against love marriages, in which case, nothing can be done. Tough luck.
By telling this, I have nothing against (or for) any type of marriage. Its just that, try to find a way to keep you and everyone around you happy. Its not too difficult.
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